5 Ways To Keep The Kids Occupied During Couples Therapy
Kids are a huge blessing! Love for our children is often what brings us to couples therapy. We want to be happy and we want our children to have a happy childhood, right?
It’s important for your kids to know you take care of yourself and your marriage. Putting your relationship first is helping the children and family.
Most find that having someone watch your kids while you take care of your relationship is the best choice you will make. It is much easier to concentrate with fewer distractions.
How Does Abuse and Emotional Neglect Make Someone An Avoider?
Understanding the Avoider’s Past So You Can Gain New Ways To Interact That Help You Break Out Of Old Ruts
We’ve talked a lot about what makes someone an avoider in previous articles on our website here and here. We also explain more about why it matters and in different contexts. But there are some other areas I want to dive deep into because they also play a huge role in your marriage.
There are several things that can make someone grow up to become an Avoider. In this post we’re focusing on the aspects of your spouse’s past that make them an avoider.
There are several things that contribute to that from their past that we’ll get to in a moment. I don’t want to ignore the things that are happening now in your relationship that might cause them to avoid, that’s the the topic of another article you can find here.
How To Reconnect With Your Family When You Travel For Work Or You’re In The Military
This post is written in a frank and direct tone. But I want you to know that it is because of the love I have for you and your family. Most of all, your kids, whom I know you love deeply....I know you might be thinking “wait don’t you do marriage counseling? Wouldn’t it be my marriage you’d care the most about?”
You bet I’m thinking of your marriage too. But we’re constantly thinking about future marriages. While these tips will transform your marriage in many ways...if you take this advice...it will also release something in your children that will cause generations of transformed relationships. It transcends far beyond you or me or even things we can see. You change thousands of lives by your choice to make these little changes.
I am tired of seeing my dear friends missing these incredibly important and crucial details. So I am writing this for you, the internet, as well as my dearest and most beloved friends who have to travel for a living to support their families or who are serving our great country in the military.
I hope as you read this you hear my desperation for you. If you saw a burning building and you knew someone was inside suffering wouldn’t you run in to save them? Yes you would because that’s the type of person you are. I am that person too. This post is the water meant to quench the flames you can’t see, but you can feel. Every time you want to get close but you can’t. Enough with the small talk and butterfly kisses. Let’s get on with it.
22 Fun Ways To Build Fun and Romance Into Your Marriage
Your marriage health is incredibly important not just for your life expectancy but also for your kid’s life expectancy. Obviously we advocate for marriage counseling because that’s what we do…but we would love for you to never need us. So we put together 22 fun ways to build fun and romance into your marriage right now so hopefully you don’t need intensive marriage counseling.
You will see a bunch of links we personally picked just to make these ideas come to life for you. None of them are affiliate links. They are all just to make life a little funner (and easier for you). We hope you enjoy this one as much as we enjoyed writing it for you!
3 Strategies For Raising Your Kid To Be A Kind And Likable Person
How Your Parenting Today Impacts, Not Just Your Marriage, But Your Kid’s Future Marriage As Well
In a previous post called How To Raise Your Kid To Be A Great Spouse we shared several practical strategies for building a great relationship with your kid so they become a great spouse one day.
This post continues that conversation about how do we do what we can do to ensure we raise exceptional human beings….AND how this has a direct impact on marriage.
We write from our experiences as parents and as professional marriage therapists. We help couples every day who once were little kids seeking for attention and love. We never lose that need for connection and love….it simply transfers to our marriage partner.
If we can learn to meet these needs for our kids we are doing 3 things. 1. We are learning how to meet those needs for our partner, 2. We’re learning about our own needs, and 3. We’re transforming lives for generations upon generations into the future.
Humans have this incredible power to love and make a conscious effort to change. We can heal and we can make little shifts to heal the lives of others if we’re brave enough to try.
We’re in this together! One big human family. Your family and your marriage plays a key roll in how the world thrives or falls apart. If you don’t believe me…look at the education system for example…
When our public lacks an education there aren’t enough skilled workers to keep an economy alive. People go hungry and loose hope. The good news is you don’t have to rely on some government education system.
When you learn these skills you teach your children how seek their own education. You remove obstacles so they can fully thrive and live up to their potential. You’re giving them emotional intelligence. This gift will allow them to never starve for love or intimacy.
How To Raise Your Kid To Be A Great Spouse
3 Strategies For Building A Real Connection With Your Kids That Will Actually Change YOUR Life And Marriage
There are a few things we’ve discovered in our marriage counseling practice that people wish they had growing up. If you are mindful of these six things we cover here, as you raise your kids to be future husbands and wives, you will discover your relationships will transform.
Some things you’ll want to avoid and some you’ll want to start doing so you can achieve your ultimate parenting goals…to raise happy, healthy, successful children, who make good choices, lives up to their full potential, and who are equipped to be a great spouse one day.
Some of these things you’ll know. Some you already do automatically…and some will take a extra effort on your part. After helping thousands of couples in our marriage counseling private practices this is what we’ve discovered makes couples the most successful.
It goes far beyond communication techniques and temporary strategies for healing broken trust. What we share here gets to the root of real intimacy.
DISCLAIMER: There is so much parent shaming out there these days….we are parents ourselves and frankly we’re sick of it all. This is NOT that.
This article is all about encouraging you and building you up so you can feel great about your skills and what you’ve already accomplished!
So let’s explore how you can make sure your kids grow into great spouses one day….if they so choose.
Building Resilience Through Life Transitions
Transitions in life can be so hard. Brad and I are already talking about when we will have a second child. I am already thinking about how my little Luke will feel about no longer being the baby.
Of course he will always be my baby…but the thought of him growing older and not being my little guy is a bit sad. We also think about his emotional health a lot.
We know how important it is for little guys and girls to be emotionally healthy because they take their emotional health or disfunction with them into their adult years. Whether they are emotionally healthy or not it impacts every aspect of their lives....
There's Nothing Like Becoming A Parent...Do You Agree?
Ever Feel Like Your Spouse Is Such A Baby?
You may have heard the saying "cradle to the grave" attached to physical intimacy. While that is very true. We don't always think of childlike temper tantrums as something acceptable in adult love relationships. Instead we hear things like, "Your acting like a such a baby"....I think that has come out of all of our mouths at one time or another!
We think of childish tantrums as totally unacceptable, right? No one thinks it's okay to scream in a grocery stores and strip naked in front of guests in our home....
3 Things To Look Out For When Preparing Your Relationship For Baby
When you bring your sweet baby home you will likely be met with challenges that are hard to prepare for. Things like colic and any array of surprise health issues your baby comes home with can weigh heavy on any relationship.
But many people don't consider how even the best relationship can be stretched and challenged. Let's consider 5 Ways To Prepare so you and your sweetheart can thrive during what should be a very happy time....