Kids are a huge blessing! Love for our children is often what brings us to couples therapy. We want to be happy and we want our children to have a happy childhood, right?
It’s important for your kids to know you take care of yourself and your marriage. Putting your relationship first is helping the children and family.
Most find that having someone watch your kids while you take care of your relationship is the best choice you will make. It is much easier to concentrate with fewer distractions.
At our Tulsa or OKC locations, we can make exceptions for children who are not yet mobile and those who are over the age of 8 and can sit still in the waiting room without supervision.
We know there may be times you just can't find a sitter. We love kiddos but couples counseling is much easier when they are not in the room with you.
Here’s 5 Things You Can Do:
Do video counseling at home while the children are occupied in another room. It usually goes better when you’ve spent some good quality time with the kids beforehand. This usually helps them be more patient since they’ve had your undivided attention.
Ask a family member or friend to watch the kids. Counseling won’t take very long. You can choose a one day retreat or spread out the sessions over a few weeks. Either way you’ll only need someone for a short time.
Do a session during school hours. This is the simplest option if your kids are school aged.
Do a babysit swap. You could offer to watch a friend’s kids in exchange for them watching your kids. The kids love the playdate and you get time away to strengthen your relationship.
Do a one day intensive retreat. You can find one day for the kids to have fun instead of getting help for weekly counseling. It can be easier to schedule and easier for your helper to commit to.
