Most affairs have characteristics of this type of affair, but this is also its own separate category.
What Is The Burned Out Affair?
This is an affair that occurs because the spouse doesn’t care about the future of the marriage. They have reached a place where they simply don’t care about being with their spouse.
The betrayer feels beat up by the negative cycle the couple has experienced and as a result they start to feel resentment, they feel alone, sad and simply start caring less about the marriage.
They get into an affair either as a way to end the relationship or they are very susceptible to an affair because they are investing so little into the marriage. When working with this type of affair the betrayer may experience the feelings of ambiguity about staying in the marriage.
What Do You Commonly See With A Burned Out Affair?
Surprisingly, many spouses will give off figurative 'warning shots'. You'll hear things like we really need to talk about xyz. They sometimes sound like they're nagging or complaining. Then they typically will make threats like, "I will leave if you don't...." you fill in the blank. But then over time when things don't change they start to back off and loose hope. They'll grow quiet and stop talking. Sometimes they just leave. Sometimes they let you know they're leaving...but either way you wake up and they're either gone physically or gone emotionally.
Sometimes burned out spouses don't complain....but most of the time they fall in that pursuer "complainer" category. If you're on the receiving end of the complaining...don't ignore the warning shots whatever you do. You will regret it. Even the sweetest Christian couples get a shock to the heart when their spouse doesn't believe in divorce but the love is just not there anymore.
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